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Dreams

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I have a few reoccurring dreams.  Do you?
One of my reoccurring dreams happens every time I get the flu (since I was a small child).  That's how I know I have the flu. 
One of my reoccurring dreams will never come true--at least I hope it doesn't because if it did it would mean my life had really taken a nose-dive.

And one of my reoccurring dreams happened in real life today.
So do I still call it a dream or is it reality?

Mid Fall in the Garden

Five Things I Want You to Know

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Dear Pearl,
The month of October is Down Syndrome Awareness month--which really means nothing to you and honestly, doesn't really mean too much to me either.  Why does it not mean much to me?  Well, because most of the time you can't fix ignorance and I won't spend my life trying to prove to people that EACH person has value and the same chance at life as I have been given. But I did want to take a few lines to share with you 5 things I want you to know.

1. When we opened our hearts to Down Syndrome we opened our life to you.  It was the best decision we ever made. 
2. We go to therapy to improve who you are--not to change who you are.  We have no desire to change who God created you to be. 
3. If you never learned to do another new thing, you would still be amazing and have the same infinite worth.
4. God created Down Syndrome.  It is not a mistake.  I suspect that God causes the presence of  a third copy of 21st chromosome in 1 in 800 births because we need people with Down Syndrome in our lives.  Here is small and funny example of this: Yesterday, we decided to go to McDonalds for lunch.  As we drove in the parking lot, you threw your arms into the air and yelled at the top of your lungs, "OH YEAH!".  I said to daddy, 'THAT is why people love folks with DS--they express the feelings and joy that we have been taught to control to a socially acceptable level.'
5. A life worth living is not about achievements in academics, sports, music, relationships, jobs or social standings.  Those things may or may not be possible for you but either way it doesn't matter.  Pearl, we want to help you love others the way that God created you to--that leads to an AMAZING life which is what you deserve!

Love, love, love you!!!
Mommy

On Brothers and Sisters

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 I was alerted to an upcoming show on PBS by way of Facebook.  I made a mental note to tune in at 10pm on Monday night. My mental notes are not as reliable as they used to be so I arrived a little late for the start (which I will catch up on later) but I saw enough.  Enough to make me cry, and ponder, and wish.
The full episode is not available yet but here is a very short teaser:
http://video.pbs.org/video/2365317413/
**UPDATE*** Here is the link to the full length video
http://video.pbs.org/video/2365338330/
Twin Sisters is a short documentary about two little girls adopted from China at the same time.  Their parents were told that they were not sisters but as the families kept in contact over the years through exchanging pictures it was evident that they were, in fact, identical twins.
Now, I am pretty sure that Pearl does not have an identical twin sister, so why were tears streaming down my face for the final 20 minutes of the show?  Because chances are Pearl does have a brother or sister, or maybe both, somewhere in Hunan Province. There are cute little people who share her genetic make-up, her mannerisms, her language and culture who she was meant to grow up with.  If she had been given a choice four years ago, if magically she could have had a voice the day she was abandoned,  she would have stayed right where she was born--where God created her to be.
Learning the Chinese language.
Fighting over cheap Chinese toys with her siblings.
Eating spicy Hunan dishes.
Sharing a bed with family members.
 

Her love for them would have been pure and natural. I truly believe Pearl would have been a completely different child emotionally had she not been abandoned. 
I ache to see that child.
To hear those giggles--the natural ones---of siblings giggling over silly games.  With no fear or thoughts as to whether an emotion is safe to express.

Abandonment is robbery.  
Pearl's siblings were stolen from her.
I can't replace those relationships.
And so I cry for her, and her siblings.

Adoption is so unnatural to me when I see shows like Twin Sisters.

But then I wake up to a new day
And I see this child starting to let down her walls and learn what brothers and sisters really are.
They are the ones who twirl you on swings....


Teach you to rake up leaves and throw them......

Teach you how to ham it up for the camera,
Teach you to give and receive kisses,

 give you bunny ears in pictures,



 and pull you around the house in a laundry basket.








And I realize that adoption may be unnatural but

redemption is beautiful.

Perspectives

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All four went to the same nature center.
All four walked on the same trails.
All four were given the same art assignment afterward.

Further proof that each person views the world from a little different perspective and 'flair'.

This is Clara's--you can't see from the picture but she used the sparkle paints to make her tree as fancy as possible. Yep, that's Clara.

This is Isaac's--who is a little bit obsessed with golf courses.  He spent 80% of his time drawing the golf course and the remaining 20% on the trees.

This is Josiah's.  What you should notice about his painting is the 3 small creatures to the right of the tree--an Oriole, a mosquito, and a dragonfly.  Jo loves his bugs and birds.

And that leaves Anne.  I am sure she is the girl sitting under the tree daydreaming about life.

Say It Ain't So

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Josiah Peter turns 6 today--say it ain't so! 
Josiah, even though we were a bit surprised that we created you, God was not.  He knew that you were our son before time began.  He knew your name.  He knew that you would love bugs, and sports, and anything that involved action and movement.  He knew that you would be funny, and sweet and have the most beautiful green-brown eyes.  While I would love to spend one more day holding my 'baby' I know you are much more interested in growing UP and doing everything that your brothers and sisters are allowed to do. 
Here are some of my favorite pictures of YOU from the last year. 
I love you Jo!
Mommy
















Love at First Sight

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 Almost one year ago I fell in love with a sweet little face.

Her picture was on a Chinese adoption advocacy site on Facebook.

Here are the words that accompanied her photo:
"Meet Anibel!
Anibel is a cutie who wears sweet little mini pony tails. She is almost three. Her favorite play activity is coloring with crayons. She has so much fun coloring that she does not want to stop. The caregivers describe her as a happy girl. They also say that she makes everyone around her happy. She can be determined and has a strong personality. She is saying single words and she imitated hand motions to a poem. Anibel’s special need is Downs Syndrome. Could this little sweetie be your daughter?"

On that day last December I left the following comment:
Oh my goodness! She is perfect!
And that began our Journey to DouDou.

It is with great thankfulness that we would like share with you that God has given us the privilege of becoming parents again.  We would like to introduce you to our soon to be daughter Dou Dou (pronounced Dough Dough). Dou Dou is 3 years old, turning 4 in February. 

Three years ago, we would have never imagined that this is what our family would look like.  But we would not change it.  Anne, Isaac, Clara and Josiah are all very excited and have many questions about Dou Dou--most of which we cannot answer. *:) happy  Pearl says 'Dou Dou' when we point to her picture but honestly, she has no idea what is coming.  It will be a big adjustment that we are already praying about.

If paperwork and process follow the usual timeline, Adam and Isaac will be traveling to China around June of next year to finalize her adoption and bring her home.
We appreciate your prayers for Dou Dou  (to whom we do plan on giving an American name....eventually) and for our family as we adjust and prepare ourselves.
 
Here is a more recent picture of our sweet DouDou.
 

Guatemala with my Girl

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 19 days ago I boarded a plane with my oldest daughter Anne.  Just the two of us--headed for Guatemala and the Village of Hope for a mother/daughter mission trip. Anne and I had been planning for this trip for over a year.  We had saved all of the money from the things we sold before we left Bermuda and our church here in Michigan gave us $1500--so all of our expenses were covered.
Our family and Margaret's Hope Chest had been supporting the Village of Hope for the past two years both financially and through quilt donations.
I had no fear or anxiety about getting on that plane and heading to a country known for poverty and crime.   That in itself was an unexplainable miracle.  I actually SLEPT on the flight which is another miracle seeing as the last time I fell asleep on a plane was back in 2009 on the way home from Greece.
Anyway, we arrived in Guatemala, met our host Todd and our roomies Kayla and Koryn from Columbus, Ohio (perfect strangers) and drove up, up, up 7000 feet to the Village of Hope.  We were the first ones to arrive so we settled into our room and then met and played with the kids. The rest of the group did not arrive until after we went to bed that night. 

 One of the things that I have always loved about Anne is that she jumps right into a new situation with no fear.  Within 30 minutes of arriving she was playing tag and soccer.

This the room we shared with Kayla and Koryn.  I would say the curtain 'doors' on the bathroom and shower took a little getting used to but after Anne spend the 3rd night vomiting and going #2 for a few hours, we all felt a little more comfortable about it (she ate something her body did not like--but just as a precaution, we will be staying away from tamales in Mexico).


 These two sweeties have been living in the room next to ours for the past year with their mom.  I will tell you more about them in a separate post.  They helped us finish off the chips the first night!
'The purpose of Village of Hope is to provide family, faith and a future to special needs children and vulnerable mothers in a family style setting. Each family living unit consists of house parents and about 8 children or mothers living in a home together on the Village of Hope property. Our hope is to create a family unit as God intended- a family to provide life- long support as well as teach the children to have life values.' Visit Village of Hope's new website for TONS of info on what they do.

Many of the children we met and served over the week are HIV+. No other orphanage in Guatemala will take kids who are HIV+.  One of the most valuable lessons for both Anne and I over the week was to see that HIV really means nothing in the big picture of things.  It gave us faces to attach to diagnosis--not strung out drug addicts, but healthy, happy children full of life and promise.



 
 
 
 Over the week at the Village of Hope, our team of 10 moms and 10 daughters taught Bible lessons, planted new flowers and plants, taught crocheting to most of the moms and girls, organized the clothes closet, played games, shared crafts,  painted nails, brought tons and tons of donations to share, and tried to share life as best as we could with everyone there.
 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 

We also left the Village of Hope a few times to serve outside their walls.  One night we went on the streets to hand homeless men and women a cup of soup and pray with them.  That felt quite uncomfortable to most of us--men who were high on glue, men who had feces running down their legs, mentally handicapped women who had clearly been abused for many, many years on the streets of Guatemala. 
For lunch one day we took a short walk to have a traditional Guatemalan meal at a traditional Guatemalan home.  
One afternoon we walked to a nearby neighborhood and played games with all of the kids who lived in the surrounding metal and cardboard homes. 
We also drove to another small neighborhood to hand out food bags to families that Village of Hope is working with. 





We also did some touristy things towards the end of the week. We went to a coffee plantation, had a couple of lunches out at restaurants and did some shopping.











Overall, Anne and I had an amazing time in Guatemala.  I know that God was using that time to nurture something deep within Anne's heart.  I feel privileged to have been able to share that with her.  It was a trip of a lifetime on many levels and I am so thankful to our great God for allowing us to go.  Many other thoughts on the trip are still rolling around in my mind--they may or may not come out onto the page. 











Fundraising for DouDou's Adoption

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 You may have noticed our Family Sponsorship Program box to your left.
If you are not familiar with Reece's Rainbow, it is a non-profit organization started by a woman named Andrea after her son Reece was born with Down Syndrome.  Our family actually met Reece and Andrea when they came to Bermuda in 2013 on a cruise!
The mission of Reece’s Rainbow is to advocate and find families for orphans with Down syndrome and other special needs by raising funds for adoption grants and promoting awareness through an online community, media communications, and other events.
Our goal is to 'raise' $10,000 through our Reece's Rainbow account. As of this writing we are more than half way there at $6,108.20.  All money donated toward this account will go directly to our adoption agency to pay for the China half of our expenses. Adam and I have already paid all of the US side expenses (homestudy, application and placement fees).

Would you consider a year end gift towards our adoption costs?  All donations are tax deductible. 
If you able to donate more than $50 we would love to share a set of ten 5X7 notecards featuring Carin's 'Winter Weeds' photography.  The cards are pictured below.    

We do not get a record of who donated until the end of our fundraising efforts.  So, if you donated and would like a set of cards, please leave a comment below (it will not be published so no one will see) or forward your donation receipt to adamvogelzang@yahoo.com

Thank you for your continued support of our family. 












BLOG PRIVACY CHANGES

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Hello faithful and unfaithful Diplofam readers.
As some of you know, our family is moving soon and due to some safety issues I have changed our blog address and all posts on that blog will be password protected.
If you would like to continue to read our blog you will have to e-mail me at margaretshopechest at yahoo dot com to request the password.
Our new blog is HERE

We are not trying to exclude any current readers from viewing our blog.  Blogger does not offer a password protected feature so I had to change venues.
Hope you will continue to read and enjoy our adventures around the world.
Thank you,
the Diplofam writing staff

Our Reece's Rainbow Angel--Daniel!!

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I am back on this blog today to share our family's Christmas project this year.  Now that we have successfully completed two Chinese adoptions, one of those with the help of Reece's Rainbow, we would like to help another child from China with Down Syndrome find an adoptive family.
We have chosen to participate in Reece's Rainbow's Angel Tree program.  Basically, we will try our hardest to raise $1000 to add to Daniel's account.  Daniel is a sweet 2 year old boy.  Currently, he has $208.25 in his 'account' at Reece's Rainbow.  That money, and any that we are able to add to that before December 31 will go towards his adoption expenses should anyone choose adopt him.
I would love to see him with a family.  He is a sweetie and deserves a loving family.




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